Who told you that Black Skin= Bad?

Click on this link and read this story in Essence based on a news report from CNN and Anderson Cooper.  

Synopsis:  The children were asked to take a doll test much like the one in the 40’s to see if the color perception has improved or gotten worse.  Well the results were astonishing! 


Skin Color is still an issue amongst the black community as well as the world community.  The same issues exist in India.  If you are fair-skinned you are preferred for marriage proposals.  I have newspaper clips that ask for fair skin.  I wonder if the British influence has anything to do with that… (good topic for a research paper) 

I was speaking to my good friend about this once and he said that he hates it when people say “she looks good to be dark skinned” or when people automatically think that someone is pretty because their skin is lighter.   Dark skinned people are pretty too.  We are all unique and special in our own ways and it is time that we learn to appreciate that.  My friend Candace and I are on opposite poles as far as skin color, but one is no better than the other. Sometimes we joke around when we try on wigs.  I’m always Kelly and she is Beyoncé.  This is solely based on skin color because I am the singer… so I am guilty too… 

Bianca & Candace

When I was growing up, girls were considered pretty if they were light-skinned with long hair.  If you were brown-skinned or darker, you were just cute or okay. (How many people remember slam books?). 

I question if we, as an African-American  community, are perpetuating our own problem.  What do we support and/or push forward in advertising, music, and entertainment?  How many darker skinned entertainers do we have?  Is Kelly less talented than Beyoncé or is it that Beyoncé is lighter skinned and has longer lace front wigs? Beyoncé is working her space, so no disrespect intended.  India Arie is working her space too, but isn’t considered main stream. Could her skin and hair be a factor?  Is she not considered pretty enough?  

Does black still mean evil by definition?  I pulled the first 7 definitions (adjectives) from www.dictionary.com.  Here are the results 

  1. Without any moral quality or goodness; evil; wicked:
  2. Lacking hue and brightness; absorbing light without reflecting any of the rays composing it characterized by absence of light; enveloped in darkness
  3. A. pertaining or belonging to any of the various populations characterized by dark skin pigmentation, specifically the dark-skinned peoples of Africa, Oceania, and Australia.
  4. African-American.
  5. Soiled or stained with dirt: That shirt was black within an hour.  
  6. Gloomy; pessimistic; dismal: a black outlook.
  7. Deliberately; harmful; inexcusable: a black lie.
  8. Boding ill; sullen or hostile; threatening: black words; black looks.

 The good guys never wore black. If you wear black too much most people will begin to question your emotional state.  The kids that wore black to school were considered “grungy” or “weird”.    

Does white mean good?  Here are the results from www.dictionary.com 

  1. of the color of pure snow, of the margins of this page, etc.; reflecting nearly all the rays of sunlight or a similar light.
  2. light or comparatively light in color.
  3. (of human beings) marked by slight pigmentation of the skin, as of many Caucasoids.
  4. for, limited to, or predominantly made up of persons whose racial heritage is Caucasian: a white club; a white neighborhood.
  5. lacking color; transparent.
  6. Slang. decent, honorable, or dependable: That’s very white of you.
  7. auspicious or fortunate.
  8. morally pure; innocent.
  9. without malice; harmless: white magic.

My name, Bianca, by definition means “white” and I am an African-American female.  How contradictory!  I’ve had people tell me that I am the “whitest black girl” they know.  I’ve learned to love the skin I am in and learn how to play in more than one sand box.  I enjoyed making mud pies in the back yard as a child and playing in the sand at the play ground.  I had white Barbie dolls and black Barbie dolls.   I read “black” magazines and “white” magazines.  I went to a public university.  I’ve been to different countries, experienced different cultures, and have had opportunities not afforded to most.  I am still a Black American Woman or an African American Woman.  God made me this way.  I love him for it.  

I appreciate India Arie’s song “I am not my hair” and Chris Rock’s educational documentary, “Good Hair”.  They make you stop and think, what is wrong with my natural hair grade?  Why am I addicted to the “creamy crack” that we so lovingly call a relaxer?  Paul Mooney said when you relax your hair, white people are relaxed… Is that true?  Most “black” hair care companies are no longer owned or operated by black people.  Take a look at the advertising.  

I appreciate Tyler Perry employing actors of all shapes and sizes in his plays, sitcoms and on the silver screen. 

Proctor & Gamble, now is the time to push the “MY BLACK is Beautiful”  campaign. Push it on main stream television. Not just on BET, Centric, and TV1 because not all black people watch those stations.  Some don’t even have cable or satellite.  Please spend the advertising  dollars and put black people of all shapes,  sizes, and hair textures out there for the world to see.    For more info on the campaign, click on www.myblackisbeautiful.com

Let’s love ourselves.   

Tell me what you think..



Black Chicken-Only Eatin’ Dog

The "Collar of Shame"

I rescued a dog from a humane society called Happy Tails of Augusta.  He is a terrier that I have named Frodo after Frodo Baggins on Lord of the Rings because he looks at me with that same look that Frodo has in the movie when he says “The ring has taken me Sam”.  He is  extremely intelligent. 

Frodo loves to dig in my purses when I am not looking.  He also likes to beg for cheetos.  Frodo will only come into a room if invited with the words “come on”.  Otherwise the dog will literally sit down in the door way.  His bark is very heavy for a dog his size.  When the time comes for me to give Frodo a hair cut he humbly obliges me by settling in on my lap as I turn on the clippers.  I guess he loves the vibration.  I can’t say that he loves to take a bath.  I have never seen a dog who does.  He knows when I am about to leave and will take a seat in his bed inside the kennel without being asked. He understands what “outside” means and what “inside” means.  With all of these smarts, I cannot figure out how to get this dog to eat something besides Pedigree chopped chicken in the can.

My coworker says that I am racially profiling my dog.  Well we know how much most black people love chicken… I call it the All American Yard Bird.  I never thought I would own a dog that only eats canned chopped chicken.  When I took ownership of Frodo back in December, I purchased dry dog food because it is supposed to be good for their teeth and better for them overall.  Well little did I know that Frodo had other plans.  I had to purchase some wet dog food to hide his medicine in because he had on the collar of shame from his neutering surgery and he kept licking the wound causing it to become infected.  So Frodo apparently liked the wet dog food better than the dry because he started snubbing it.  He would walk into the kitchen and into the corner where his bowl is located.  He sniffed the bowl.  If I had dry dog food in it, he would immediately walk away. If I had canned chopped chicken, it would take plyers to tear him away from the bowl. I tried mixing the dry with the can to no avail. Frodo just licked the chopped chicken off of the dry dog food.  I tried just putting down dry dog food for about 4 days.  Frodo refused to eat.  I am not an inhumane person, but I was determined to wait Frodo out until he gave me those “the ring has taken me Sam” eyes.  I tried to mix the dry food with water to make it soft. I’ve tried different brands with tender morsels.  Frodo will not eat them.


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Does anyone have any suggestions for my Black Chicken-Only Eatin Dog?  Canned Pedigree is expensive. LOL..